Alone Together

Surprising people don't know what they mean when they get married.


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/career-commitment/201404/alone-together

Diagnosing Your Spouse

Diagnosing one's partner can be very tempting but it can cause a lot of unnecessary pain.  Chances are that he does exhibit characteristics consistent with diagnosis x, y, or z.  But it must be more productive to uncover the experience under the behaviors and develop compassion for the experience than to simply identify it as a defective trait. Diagnoses or not, the work is the same.

Diagnosing Your Spouse

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Anger, Love Courage

"You show me a couple that's not having sex and I'll show you a couple who's angry.  They may say, 'oh no, we love each other so much; it's so deep!'.  But somewhere in there, there's that resentment: 'I'm not gonna be vulnerable to you'."
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"Many men and women feel really dependent on each other.  When they can't live without a man or a woman, they turn their neediness into conquest.  They seduce people.  If you somebody you seduce them, and then you hold them, you trap them and then you reject them.  That's what womanizing and manizing is all about: find them, conquer them and get rid of them.  Don't depend on them.  The reason you wanna have a lot of women is because you'd be too vulnerable to just one."
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"Taking control of everything is a form of anger."


-Armand DiMele, from The Positive Mind

http://digital-magic.tv/digitalplanet/thepositivemind/audio-frame_new.php?movie=tpm_20140408&tK=ded1475e3affab95e7b302eacaa5a1b4&size=large

The Epitomy of Insanity?

What an incredible story.  I don't know when I've heard anything so incongruously honest and fucked up. Oh; maybe once.

http://player.fm/series/the-moth-podcast-7142/james-braly-finally-we-agree

Looking for Trust in All the Wrong Places

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201404/looking-trust-in-all-the-wrong-places

Your Emotionally Abusive Ex

This really resonated for me:

http://mentalpod.com/Loneliness-Dr-Guy-Winch-Podcast 4:30 – 6:42  

“Understand, when you’re with somebody who is emotionally abusive, the game they get you to play is to constantly try to be somebody that you’re not.  That’s how they derive their power from you.  Guys like him are afraid of emotional intimacy and to avoid having to look at that in themselves, they project their anger and their dislike of themselves onto other people and they have you running laps around them, tap dancing, trying to be everything you can be, so they don’t have to look at themselves.  It’s a drug.  It’s a drug to the person who’s being manipulated and to the person who’s doing the abusing.”