Love and the Illusion of Certainty
Be certain of your values not your projections

"If you want to feel lovable and adequate, you have to return to the appreciative, caring, tolerant, and compassionate person you were when you fell in love.
...the real value of relationship: having someone who supports us through joy and turbulence, who sees beauty amidst our warts, and who, most importantly, helps us realize our humanity by allowing us to love and support in kind."

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201312/love-and-the-illusion-certainty